Breakups are never fun. This is especially true if it was under nasty circumstances. The pain can be debilitating when you find out that the person you love would rather be with someone else. Here are few things you can do to help deal with the breakup.
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Allow yourself to feel the pain
After a breakup, the pain can make it difficult to go through the day. It’s easy to hide in unhealthy distractions like jumping into a new relationship or drinking too much. As difficult as it is, the best way to get through it is to allow yourself to feel the pain. Cry as much as you need to, for as long as you need to.
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Cut off all communication
You might not be able to do it immediately but with time you need to cut off all communication with your ex. Block them on your phone to keep you from reaching out at a vulnerable time. You may want to unfriend and unfollow on social media as well as seeing their social media activity will only make it harder for you to move on.
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Surround yourself with love
This is the time to lean on your friends and family. You need people in your life who will remind you that you’re worthy of love and listen to you when you call at 3am crying over your heartbreak. Being cheated on can have you thinking that there’s something wrong with you and it’s important to have people in your life who will remind you that there isn’t.
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Keep busy
Pour yourself into work or school. Also, if you can, get a new hobby or join an activity group. Doing new things with new people will help you widen your social circle and interests and give your life some excitement as you focus on something other than the breakup. Take this time to learn a new language, join a dance class, join the gym, volunteer at a charity or even plan solo travels.
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Take stock
This is a hard one but at some point you have to take stock of the relationship and appreciate the lessons and take what you needed to learn from it. The thing is to make sure to be honest with yourself about what went wrong and move forward without fear.
