Best Friend

You and your bestie have had some pretty good times together. You’ve supported each other through many life situations. It’s been fine until now…your best friend has found a significant other. Suddenly they don’t have as much time for you as before. You feel left out. What do you do?

Acknowledge Your Feelings

It’s normal to feel a bit neglected when your bestie starts hanging out with someone else. Maybe you even feel a little jealous. Don’t dismiss these emotions, it only makes the situation harder to deal with. Vent if you need to, but not to your best friend. You don’t want the to feel guilty about being in love, do you?

Take It Easy

During the first months of a relationship, there’s a lot of excitement. The parties involved tend to ‘block out’ many people in their lives and focus on each other. But with time the rush wears off. Give your best friend time to enjoy the novelty of their relationship. She’ll come around soon. But even if she doesn’t, it’s not the end!

Be Open

To the possibility of new friendships. Don’t stay mourning the loss of the friendship so much that you miss all the amazing potential friends around you.

Communication

If you’re really being neglected, have a candid chat with your best friend. Let her know you’re happy for her, but would still like to hang out once in a while. Failing to express your concerns breeds frustration with time.

Be Watchful

If you notice some ‘off’ behaviour in your bestie’s love interest, notify them about it. They may not listen to you at first, but let them know you’re doing so from a point of concern. Stay objective when raising such issues. Don’t force the conversation- if she doesn’t see your point right away, let the matter rest. She might see sense in what you’re saying after thinking about it while calm.

 

 

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