There are some things we consider to only happen to ‘other people’. We can’t imagine them hitting close to home, that’s why it’s so devastating when it happens. One of those things is addiction. We view our loved ones as good people, thus if one falls into addiction we’re lost at what to do. Being around them might make them too dependent on us while distancing ourselves triggers in them feelings of neglect.
First, you need to understand and accept that addiction is a disease. An addict can’t ‘just stop’ even though they know their behaviour is harmful. Over the course of time, substance abuse leads to changes in brain chemistry and neuron functioning, making it hard for the addict to quit. Also, don’t blame yourself for your loved one’s condition. Be supportive but acknowledge that the decision to get help is theirs.
When encouraging a family member to seek help, be cautious how you do it. Being confrontational or approaching them when they are intoxicated causes them to be defensive. Instead, choose a time when they are calm. Be empathetic and assure them that you are available to assist in their recovery journey. It’s best to approach them when they have accepted that they need help and are trying to quit substance abuse.
Your loved one may be receptive when talking to them at first, but change their minds about going for treatment. In such a case, an intervention is needed. This is where the person’s loved ones meet with them, share how the addiction has negatively impacted them and encourage the person to seek treatment. Having a professional such as a psychologist in the meeting helps you navigate the session and diffuse tensions.
There are various types of treatment that depend on the severity of addiction and the addict’s life circumstances. In-patient treatment is for extreme cases while outpatient works for those who can’t be away from their workplace or homes. Other options include group counselling, individual therapy, 12- step programs and dual diagnosis.
As your loved one recovers, let them know that they have your full support. If they happen to relapse, refrain from judging them. Addiction can be really difficult to break. Family therapy sessions are helpful in identifying any behaviour that could be pushing the patient further into addiction. It helps to improve communication and should be a safe space for all to raise their concerns.
