There are two kinds of people; those who enjoy being single, and those who really don’t. If you do not like being single, single life may sting, particularly when it seems like everyone in your life is bood up.
However, being single can be a blessing, if you let it. You have to be okay and content with being alone, so that you can channel that energy even when you are in a relationship.
If you are scared, or worried about being single, here are a few tips on how to be happily single even when it does not come naturally.
1. Cleanse your social media accounts
Unfollow all those influencers that make you feel awful because you are not living your best/richest/sexiest life.
If you’re still on Facebook, take a few minutes to unfriend all of the people who make you cringe when you see their posts poison your feed. Tribal friend? Unfriend. Toxic cousins and aunties? Unfriend. The perfect mom who won’t stop commenting unsolicited advice on your posts? Unfriend.
We spend a lot (too much) time on our phones. Curbing that addiction is a whole other mission, but it’s totally doable to make what you’re swiping through less demeaning.
Make sure you follow accounts that actually help you see the world more clearly, are educational and bring you great vibes.
In addition, please avoid comparing yourself to couples that are seemingly ‘ever happy on social media. Simply focus on yourself and your space.
2. Prioritize genuine connection
When single, you might have to be a bit more proactive about connecting with the people in your life. Identify what you really want, what attributes you would want in a partner, and work on healing yourself. Simply be the best version of yourself when you are single.
3. Take time to really know yourself
When you are single, consider this a time when you get to know yourself, be your own partner, and give yourself all the love you would expect from a partner. Buy yourself flowers, take yourself out, and focus on you. Take the time to figure out what you really want in life and work on being your best self.
4. Join groups, take classes, or start a side hustle
During your single life, take advantage of having free evenings and weekends and not having to work around someone else’s schedule. Take on that dancing class you have always wanted, that sport you want to practice or dive into that side hustle. Without the need to share your time with a significant other, you have the opportunity to focus on whatever you want. It is also an opportunity to explore new hobbies and things that bring you joy.
5. Make and spend time with single friends
Making new, single friends can boost your support system with people who can relate to your current circumstances. It is really important to have some friends who can relate to what you are going through.
6. Set goals and focus on your growth.
Being single gives us a chance to truly hold ourselves accountable, support ourselves, and make our own decisions and goals. Use this time to get clear on what you want to achieve, whether it’s personal, financial, etc. Reflect on how far you’ve come every time you reach a new goal. “There is a strength that is cultivated when one is alone,” Spinelli adds.
Whether single or not, we all deserve our own self-love and partnership. When you can appreciate being single and use the time to strengthen your sense of self, your worth, and get clear on what you really want, the benefits will ripple in all areas of your life.
Relationships are wonderful, but so is single life. Enjoy your own company and be okay with being alone, loving exactly who you are, single or not.
